May 4, 2012
Article By: William Dorsey
Contact Us With Your Divorce and Custody Law Questions.
If you’re like most people, you wish all families, including your own, could live as Ozzy and Harriet without issues of separation, divorce, and child custody. As you know, none of us live like Ozzy and Harriet; however, this means that you are not alone. Divorce and child custody issues are commonplace; so, there is a lot of support for you, your child, and your child’s other parent. A good place to start is with our article, 6 Simple and Effective Ways to Make Child Custody Issue Easier for Your Child. If you have specific questions about your individual situation, consult with a qualified family law attorney.
If you implement these 10 tips, you’ll surely make child custody issues easier for your child:
- Do not use your child as a messenger; always communicate directly with your child’s other parent, but keep children in the loop on a need to know basis. This shields your children from divorce related communications, but keeps them feeling a part of the family and somewhat in control. If you absolutely cannot communication effectively with your ex, your family law attorney can represent your interests on your behalf.
- Unless you suspect abuse, never withhold your child from his or her other parent to punish your ex. You’d actually be punishing your child and creating unnecessary upset. Instead, let your family law attorney handle any breakdowns in child support payments or communications.
- Do not speak negatively about your child’s other parent in front of your child, ever. Your child is connected and a part of both you and your ex. To criticize your child’s parent is to criticize your child; remember, and apply, the court standard that every action you take should be in “the best interests of your child.”
- Do your best to communicate to your child that you, your ex, and your children are still a family, but in a different form. Emphasize that you both love your child and that all of your child’s will be met; further, emphasize that the divorce is not your child’s fault. Counseling and support groups will likely help your children deal with the pain of divorce and separation from his or her other parent.
- Get good legal advice so that your child receives the medical benefits and financial support that he or she deserves. Discuss your rights regarding child support, as either the custodial or non-custodial parent, with a qualified family law attorney. Do not discuss these financial issues with your child. It’s too scary and damaging.
- Use a service such as Our Family Wizard to coordinate schedules and foster communication, as well keep track of child support payments and expenses with your ex. Your child can also have access to certain aspects such as the family schedule.
Grandparents, your family law attorneys, the court, and other professionals can also be kept in the loop with this service.
Where to Get Help Making Child Custody Issue Easier for Your Child
If you or a loved one is going through a separation or divorce, or expects to go through a separation or divorce, consult with a qualified family law attorney.
We focus our practice on child custody, divorce, and family law and you can reach us at (904) 346-3883 or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Our office is located in Jacksonville, Florida; your next step is to contact our office for a consultation.